10 best spreader bars & cuffs for couples

With more and more people getting involved in BDSM, the market has replied by offering up hundreds of options of related sex toys. It’s hard to sift through all of the options, so this collection of reviews aims to simplify things a bit, looking at the 10 best spreader bars and cuffs for couples. Read on to find out more!

Best For Beginners

DOMINIX Deluxe Inflatable Spreader Bar, Cuff and Blindfold Set

Best Challenge

Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs

Best Overall

Fetish Fantasy 24 Inch Spreader Bar and Handcuff Set

This spreader bar by Bondage Boutique is well thought out. The bar is metal, making it sturdy and durable; it’s adjustable, and, with some simple metal pins, you can stretch it from 18 to 26 inches to test your partner’s flexibility. 

Even the most organised of us lose things, and to help with this, they’ve included four padlocks and eight keys, so you’re never caught short for options. With cuffs that you can adjust from 7.5 to 12 inches in circumference, you can tighten them up, so they fit just perfectly. A solid option for a reasonable price!

What makes these cuffs and spreaders even better are you can bend over and take them anywhere you want. From your sex dungeon to a posh hotel in Venice, you could be strapped in and be submissive in no time because you can pack this spreader away in three separate, detachable parts, making it extremely easy to travel with; because god forbid you to go on holiday without your spreader! 

Now you might be ready to say, “Right, Bend over and Spread Em’!” But there are both pros and cons to this beautiful bit of kit, so here are some we picked out for you to have a look at:  

Pros 

  • Extremely versatile,
  • Strong spreading bar,
  • Easy to use and adjustable, 
  • Relatively comfortable.

Cons 

  • Keys and locks could be of higher quality, 
  • It can be fragile if not Used correctly, 
  • High price point, 
  • It can’t be used for long periods. 

These simple yet highly effective leather cuffs are highly versatile. With a nine-hole buckle fastening system, you can adjust the wrist straps from 5-9 inches and the ankle cuffs from 8-14 inches. 

With solid nylon bed straps, if you’re travelling with these, they should fit any double-sized bed you come across. With easy seatbelt style clasps, unfastening the restraints has never been easier, should you need a quick break for any reason. This also means you can leave the straps adjusted to fit your bed, making the fitting process much more straightforward!

Great for beginners looking to get into the BDSM, submissive and dominant roles but not wanting to get anything too extreme to start with, these restraints are perfect because instead of the usual under-mattress, get up that can cover the entire underneath of your mattress. These restraints can be set up and taken down in two straightforward steps without completely changing the whole dynamic underneath your bed! 

We have come up with some pros and cons to be doing with these restraints so you can get a complete idea of what it is you are investing in: 

Pros

  • Fantastic quality cufflinks, 
  • Great for BDSM and getting that full submissive experience, 
  • Easy to set up and use, 
  • Multiple hooks, multiple positions.  

Cons

  • It doesn’t come in any other colours, 
  • Higher price bracket, 
  • Some parts could become fragile over time, 
  • Straps can become weakened.

This option from Sportsheets is simple but effective and comes in at a very competitive price. The bar is a fixed 16 inches, but you can adjust the neoprene and velcro cuffs from 6 to 14 inches, which is more than some of the other options on this list. 

The bar is coated to keep things quiet if you’re in a shared house or hotel, making this a great, simple travel option. It doesn’t pack down, though, which might make it tricky to pack in smaller bags.

Have your lover’s feet all tangled up with this Sportsheets Spreader as they become completely powerless and wait for your instructions. This spreader is excellent for our BDSM lovers and anyone else looking to add a little spice to the bedroom or change up those power dynamics! Along with the cuffs and the bar, you can control what positions, where and when you fuck and have your lover completely submit to anything and everything (with consent, of course!). 

But what are the positives and negatives to this spreader? Well, here are a few to ponder:  

Pros 

  • Easy to pack away and set up, 
  • Perfect for beginners, 
  • Very practical and functional, 
  • High-quality materials used. 

Cons 

  • Cannot change the position of the cuffs, 
  • The bar could be a bit short for more seasoned spreaders, 
  • Not the most discreet sex toy in the world, 
  • The restraints will be too big if you have small feet or hands!  

A slightly more versatile version of the one reviewed, this offering from Sportsheets is both adjustable and can be packed easily in 3 compact pieces. The bare metal aesthetic is clean and exciting, the feel of cold steel on the skin exciting for some. 

The velcro cuffs are simple yet effective and easily removable when need be. The spring-loaded pin is quick to adjust and offers a wide variety of widths. Simply line it up with the appropriate hole, and hey-ho you’re ready to go.

Not only is this spreader more spreadable, but it’s utterly butterly fantastic for customisation. No limb is safe with this bar around because you can add any custom cuffs or restraints onto this spreading bar, so whether you want fluffy pink cuffs to flirt with or studded hardcore ones to restrain your submissive so they can’t move a morsel! You have the option to do whatever you and your lover see fit. 

This spreader is fantastic, but what are the actual pros and cons to this sex toy? Well, have a little look at our list comprised of actual reviews from real customers:  

Pros 

  • Cuffs are soft, and bar is strong, 
  • Comfortable to wear and use, 
  • It makes for smoother motion, 
  • Portable and easy to put together. 

Cons 

  • Price is on the higher end, 
  • Great for beginners, maybe not so much for professionals,
  • Pushpins are a bit awkward at times, 
  • The bar might not be long enough for some.  

This spreader bar from Bondage Boutique is serious stuff. You can adjust it from 23.5 to an impressive 35.5 inches, enough to stretch even the most flexible of partners. 

While it can reach impressive sizes, the longest is only 15.25 inches when packed into three pieces, making it easy to store. It doesn’t come with cuffs, so it is more suitable for those with a bit of bondage gear already rather than someone just getting into it. This makes an excellent option for those looking to expand (literally) their collection.

This spreader is designed for our BDSM lovers and pros out there, making for a great sub and dom relationship. The bar will allow you the dom full access to your sub’s genitals, allowing you to do pretty much whatever you want to them, and their legs are ultimately bound to your control! This stretcher has many benefits, but what are also the negatives? We have come up with a list of pros and cons to help with those dying questions!

Pros 

  • Easy to adjust, goes nice and wide, 
  • Complete submission and control, 
  • Sturdy and high-quality design, 
  • Light and compactable bar.  

Cons 

  • No cuffs included, 
  • Not great for beginners, 
  • Higher price range, 
  • Metal pins can be pretty fiddly. 

This padded spreader bar makes a wonderful choice for those entering the world of bondage. The padded and comfortable cuffs can be adjusted from 13 to 20 inches, making for a precise and enjoyable fit, offering a quick and simple release when you want. 

Not just for beginners, this well made spreader will suit experts looking for a less severe session or a nice extra to add to their arsenal of toys and straps! One of the cheapest options on this collection of reviews, why not give it a go – there’s nothing to lose.

What’s there not to love about this thigh spreader? With the bar in between your lover’s legs so you can get an eye full of everything they have to offer and easy access! To the comfort they will feel and have throughout your intense fuck session without being taken away or out from the fantasy by a bit of metal or strap digging into them in the wrong place! You can both enjoy everything this thigh spreader has to offer. But what are the pros and cons of this fabulous addition to your toy collection? 

Pros 

  • Simple, sturdy bar, 
  • Comfortable soft thigh straps, 
  • Great price, 
  • Adds something special to playtime.

Cons

  • Not suitable for our big thighed lovers out there,
  • It needs full deep clean, not just wipeable, 
  • Edges of the cuffs are not protected, 
  • The bar can slip out of place.  

You’re probably getting the picture by now – this review loves most things that come from bondage boutique, and this offering is no different. With simple and robust O-ring pins to adjust the bar from 25 to 36.5 inches and strong n safe velcro on the cuffs (which open up to 14 inches in circumference), there’s nothing this set of bar and cuffs could need! 

It breaks down into three pieces for easy packing and storage, with no unwieldy bars left over. A great option, which comes highly recommended! 

Not only does this bar and cuff set offer beginners the chance to dive right into the world of spreading with everything they need to get started, but this set is also completely customisable. So, as your cuff and bar collection grows, you can swap out and change whatever you want to make this spreader precisely what you want it for and with the push-pins, you can even adjust the length of the bar to either have the full monty or a shy reveal! 

But like with any spreader set, there are positives and negatives to consider, so here is a list of some we think are essential to weigh up:  

Pros 

  • Portable and adjustable, 
  • Sturdy material, 
  • Great value for money, 
  • Have full submission.  

Cons 

  • Loops can rend to be loose
  • The clips to hold it together can slip out, 
  • A little rattly and noisy at times, 
  • Not all cuffs will fit this spreader.  

While this set isn’t adjustable, that’s about the only bad thing about it. Inflatable and velvety soft, this is a genuinely exquisite little set and brilliantly priced as well! When deflated, it packs down incredibly small, with no rigid bars getting in the way. 

When inflated, it’s a solid 29 inches, which should be a great intermediate size for most people. The quick-release clips on the cuffs make for a quick and safe escape. The O rings are also compatible with other gear if you combine equipment.

This set doesn’t stop there, though. Along with the bar and cuffs, you also get a sexy, velvety blindfold that can help you go full-on “50 shades of grey” and enjoy some sensory deprivation play. This blindfold is also great for our BDSM lovers who need their sub to be wholly compliant and don’t want them knowing what’s going to happen next! 

But if this blindfold couldn’t get any better, it just did because you don’t have to just use this to get down and dirty, but it’s great for just having a good night’s sleep as it doubles up as a sleep mask! Here are some pros and cons that we have found with this set:  

Pros 

  • Three in one set,
  • Inflatable and foldable bar, 
  • Travel friendly, 
  • Top-quality materials used.  

Cons 

  • It isn’t adjustable, 
  • The bar can bend under pressure,  
  • Quick-release can get jammed if not looked after,
  • The bar could get holes or not inflate properly.

This bar from Scandal is beautiful, bordering on a piece of artwork. The strong metal bar is padded in a decorative material to reduce clanking, and the bar itself is truly sturdy. 

With eight different holes for adjustability between 24 and 36 inches, this will be a good option for most people, though it doesn’t come with straps. So it might not make a good choice for beginners just getting into bondage. It is, however, compatible with most cuffs, making it a great addition to your collection.

Feel like a proper Scandal with this Extendable Spreader in between your legs, making your night extremely kinky and submissive as you stand there fully exposed to your master, waiting for further instruction. This bar allows you to play out all kinds of roleplay, BDSM and fantasies that will have your knees quivering and your mind racing! But like with any bar set, there are pros and cons to them. Here are some that we found for you to look over:  

Pros 

  • Easy to use,
  • Sexy looking, 
  • It expands pretty far out, 
  • Soft, durable fabric and adjustable.  

Cons 

  • No cuffs to go with it, 
  • Inner rings that are deemed unnecessary, 
  • Higher price, 
  • Not great for beginners.  

Have we saved the best till last? What can’t this set do is the big question – the answer is not much! With two bars, you can either restrain arms, legs, or both together, in whichever combinations of sizes and angles you like. 

The long bar is 24 inches, the short one 10 inches, and it comes with four adjustable neoprene and velcro cuffs for easy and comfortable restraint. A nice thing about this set is that it includes a storage bag so that you can keep all the bars, cuffs, padlocks and keys together. 

It also comes with a free blindfold, which is excellent for experimenting with sensory deprivation play and complete submission in BDSM fun! It also comes with a detachable collar. This is perfect to have control over your sub and have them in any position you want, and also, if you are into puppy play, it gives a more realistic fantasy to your roleplaying.  

Overall this would be a great first set to get into the world of bondage, maybe a kinky present for a special partner! But what are the pros and cons of this set? Well, here are some we think are important to note:

Pros 

  • Maximum restriction, 
  • Adjustable and extendable, 
  • Foldable and travel safe, 
  • Comes with cuffs, a blindfold and a collar.  

Cons 

  • High price point, 
  • No additional ring in the middle of the bar for attachments.

 

Conclusion 

Spreaders bars and cuffs are the perfect toys for branching out in the world of BDSM. From larger, sturdier constructs to compact builds that you can hide in a draw, there’a all sorts of fun to be had that won’t cost you an arm and a leg! 

If you liked this guide and want to learn more about bondage play, check out my guide on the many reasons behind why people like BDSM

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