When you think of the term “punishment”, what comes to your mind? Whips? Chains? Latex?
Although you’re not wrong, in the BDSM world, those types of kinks come under the definition of “punishment”. Punishment is more of a broader umbrella term, covering a variety of BDSM activities.
From discipline and submission to sadism and masochism, punishment plays a massive part in many of these kinks and can be highly pleasurable for many.
Severity of Punishment
The severity of your punishment is entirely down to you and your lover(s). There are several different types and levels of punishment that you can adopt.
The level of punishment can depend on the dynamic of your BDSM coupling. Whether that is a dom and sub or master and slave, the punishments can range from spanking to “forcing” your sub to perform acts on you.
The different punishments are there so that you and your lover(s) can be adventurous in what makes you all tick.
Punishment isn’t always focused on the amount of pain you get from doing these kinks. It’s more like a dance between the dominant and the submissive in the various pleasure aspects of giving and taking.
Boundaries Must Be Set
Before anyone partakes in BDSM and punishment kinks, you should always discuss what is on and off the cards, what will not be allowed or what would turn you off or make you uncomfortable.
These boundaries are essential to set because, in BDSM, it can be pretty easy to get lost in the fantasy and take things too far if limitations haven’t been set by the participating parties beforehand.
Creating a safe word is also a must. This safe word allows both the submissive and the dominant to end the BDSM and punishment at any point without shame or judgement.
Safe words and boundaries are designed to give everyone peace of mind that nothing is against their will and that BDSM is all about listening, trusting and communicating what is and isn’t allowed.
20 Ways to Punish Your Submissive
Now, you want to punish your sub in various ways, but whether you are new to BDSM or you are stuck on finding a new punishment technique. Here are 20 ways we have discovered that you can give your submissive a good telling-off!
1. Put a Collar On Them
They are your property, aren’t they? Well, remind them of that by getting them a collar to wear. You can get many diverse types depending on the punishment level you want to give them, from spikey ones to studded ones; you can take control and have them fully submit to you!
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2. Shame Their Bodies
They are your property, aren’t they? Well, remind them of that by getting them a collar to wear. You can get many diverse types depending on the punishment level you want to give them, from spikey ones to studded ones; you can take control and have them fully submit to you!
3. Make Them Into a Human Chair
Are you sick and tired of your sub just standing around, waiting for you to dominate them? Well, get them to get on all fours and put them to good use by using them as your own personal human stool.
You can get comfy watching your favorite TV program whilst they hold you up perfectly throughout. No more annoying sub just standing in the corner, and you’re getting an extra piece of furniture to add to your home!
4. Publicly Degrade Them
If your sub is being defiant and punishing them behind closed doors is not enough, why not punish them in front of everyone? Making them wear either a revealing garment or a degrading comment on their clothes that they must parade around in public should sufficiently degrade them back to their submissive place, giving you an obedient sub once again!
5. Click Your Fingers & Get Them Doing Chores
Why should you struggle to do chores around the house when you have a perfectly strong, healthy submissive there to do it for you? Click your fingers and have them running all of your errands in no time for the opportunity of maybe some kind of reward if they do the chores sufficiently enough.
Never again will you have to pick up a broom or take out the bins; just one click will all be done for you!
6. Withhold Personal Items
If your submissive is misbehaving and acting like a spoiled brat, then punish them like one by taking away something special or personal to them, whether that be their phone, games console or even their scheduled orgasm for the week.
Using this restrictive discipline technique will have your sub begging to kiss your feet and do anything you say again.
7. Keep Your Sub Quiet
Is your submissive too loud when they orgasm? Or just really annoying to talk to? You can solve this issue by forcing them to be quiet at all times and only to make a sound when you say they can. This silence means you can enjoy taking advantage of them in harmonious peace and quiet and not have their voice ringing in your ears!
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8. Tie Them Up
Maybe you want to go out to the shop, but you don’t want your little submissive following you around. Solve this issue by tying them up to your bed, a table, or anywhere you, as the dominant, see as an appropriate place for them to be chained to.
Then leave them, go enjoy yourself, and when you come back to a begging submissive pleading to be set free, you can relive your power over them and may even just take advantage of them whilst they are vulnerable.
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9. Make Them Beg to Touch You
Sometimes you need to remind your submissive, who actually is the dominant figure in this dynamic, so holding out on them and telling them whether they can’t touch you or give you pleasure will have them begging at your knees to masturbate or caress you.
Have fun with it, too, have them inches away from your vagina or cock wave in front of them, but just far enough away that they can’t do anything other than smell your delicious goods. This will have them plead with you to take control of them!
10. Take Control With Vibrations
Whether it is a love egg inserted inside of them or making them wear vibrating panties, you can have complete, ultimate power over when, where and how your sub will receive an orgasm. Maybe they are simply trying to do the house chores or walking the dog out in public.
Have them weak at the knees and dripping wet, no matter where they are. Even punish them by getting them to the brink of orgasm and then just turning the panties or egg off and putting the controller away.
11. Give Them a Golden Shower
Whether it is a love egg inserted inside of them or making them wear vibrating panties, you can have complete, ultimate power over when, where and how your sub will receive an orgasm. Maybe they are simply trying to do the house chores or walking the dog out in public.
Have them weak at the knees and dripping wet, no matter where they are. Even punish them by getting them to the brink of orgasm and then just turning the panties or egg off and putting the controller away.
12. Force an Orgasm Out of Them
Your submissive might be tired, but you are not, so have them tied down and take an orgasm from them. Even when they think they are all drained, keep going until your sub is wholly overwhelmed with sensations to the brink of absolute breaking point, and then maybe if they ask you nicely, you might stop.
13. Spanking
An oldie but goodie, giving your submissive a good old spank over your knee is a traditional punishment in which both doms and subs like to partake. This is something that you as the dom have to be aware of because many submissives love to be spanked and so will “act out” on purpose to receive a spanking punishment.
So although your first reaction when they do something wrong would be to have them over your knee, maybe withhold the spank instead. By withholding their punishment, you will really have your submissive pleading for punishment like never before!
14. Get Chilly With Some Ice
This punishment is best performed when it’s already cold and wet outside, and your submissive is entirely restrained. Get an ice cube out of the freezer and run it along the warmest parts of their body. This temperature change will give them a freezing sensation that, if your sub is also blindfolded, will heighten even further, giving them an incredible, chilly, but exciting time!
15. Tell Them When They Can Touch Themselves
Holding the power of orgasm is an incredible feeling. As punishment, you can revoke the opportunity to either receive an orgasm or even to give themselves an orgasm. You are turning that glorious act into a reward that must be earned and granted only by you, and when you say they can!
16. Cuckold
Having sex with someone else in front of your submissive is the ultimate punishment. You are not only showing your sub what they are missing out on but also, by making them watch, you are withholding their chance of getting any pleasure and giving it to a complete “stranger”, giving you that absolute control.
Cuckold is a more advanced form of punishment, so we suggest communicating beforehand and doing your research before bringing another person into the situation.
17. Hot Wax
Having sex with someone else in front of your submissive is the ultimate punishment. You are not only showing your sub what they are missing out on but also, by making them watch, you are withholding their chance of getting any pleasure and giving it to a complete “stranger”, giving you that absolute control.
Cuckold is a more advanced form of punishment, so we suggest communicating beforehand and doing your research before bringing another person into the situation.
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18. Have Your Way With Them
A punishment that can turn into pleasure for both is the unsuspected screwing of your submissive. Having them in a compromised position or taking advantage of them in a place where they wouldn’t necessarily suspect you to screw them, for example, in a dressing room or public bathroom, will have your sub surprised, shocked and punished thoroughly!
19. Walk Them Like a Dog
A punishment that can turn into pleasure for both is the unsuspected screwing of your submissive. Having them in a compromised position or taking advantage of them in a place where they wouldn’t necessarily suspect you to screw them, for example, in a dressing room or public bathroom, will have your sub surprised, shocked and punished thoroughly!
20. Get the Whip Out
Just like spanking, you can have your submissive whipped to any level of punishment that you see fit, whether that is one lash or twenty. Depending on their pain tolerance and the punishment type, you, as the dom, can have lots of fun giving your submissive the whipping of a lifetime!
Again, with this punishment, some subs like to be whipped, so reversing this punishment to withholding a whipping can be just as effective as giving it out to your sub.
Final Thoughts...
Hopefully, this article has given you some kinky new ideas on how to sufficiently punish your submissive and become a more authoritative dominant. All of these acknowledge that all parties are consenting adults over the age of 18 years old and have a safe word ready and available if any party decides that this punishment is too much or not for them.
Have fun, our little BDSM pros and be punishingly careful along the way!
