We all love a good fingering! Whether that is vaginally or anally. But what if you want to step it up a notch and get into the world of fisting?
Fisting is the stepping stone into BDSM, so it is perfect for all of you out there that are looking to add a little bit of kink to your love life. But what is fisting anyway? And how do you do it safely?
Fisting – How does it work?
Like any sexual escapade, it’s all about ENTHUSIASM! Fisting can be intense but amazing for all involved, so ensuring that you have full consent, communication, trust, and patience is key to not causing any injuries or damage to you or your partner!
But how does it work?
Fisting Safely – Where to start
It’s all about getting horny! Get in the mood by starting with some foreplay, don’t be scared to use your tongue, mouth, fingers or toys to tease and intensify your sensations. The general rule is, the wetter you are, the easier the fisting will be!
Ensure your partner is naturally wet enough, or use lubricants of your choice on your lover’s vagina or anus to guarantee they are as comfortable as possible.
Get Them Fingers Ready
Take it one finger at a time! Start slowly fingering your partner with one finger to tease them either with turning or curling, pressing against their P-spot or G-spot, then add another finger to the mix to stretch your partner’s anus or vagina steadily.
As you add more fingers, make sure to communicate with your partner throughout, this is a marathon, not a sprint! So if the third or fourth finger is too much, go back, add more specific fisting lube and try again, do-not-rush!
Fists Up!
Once all of your fingers are inside, and your partner is moaning out for more, that’s when you are ready to start fisting! Slowly and gently curl all of your fingers into the palm of your hand to create the fist shape. Use your knuckles to rub against all of your lover’s curves and swerves inside of them!
You can even spice it up a little more and not close your fingers into a fist and instead sensually wiggle your fingers back and forth against each side, making your lover’s orgasms even more intense!
So How Do You Fist Safely?
When it comes to fisting, it can be safer on your body because there is a lower risk of getting any STI’s. However, fisting can be hard on the body and can seriously hurt your partner if not careful.
So what actions can you take to make fisting safer? Well, here are some of our suggestions:
- Trim your nails! No one wants to be scratched, especially from the inside out. So ensure they are nice and short and with no nasty sharp bits!
- Use LOADS of lube. Natural lubrication can be enough for some people, but if not, don’t be shy to use plenty of lubrication; the wetter you are, the easier the fisting will be!
- Like we said before, it’s a marathon, not a sprint, so GO SLOW! Fisting can be extremely dangerous if you go too quickly when your partner is not ready.
- Consider gloves – Latex gloves or any protection over your hands can help you and your partner not cause any damage and decreases the risk of any STI’s massively. But remember to use LOADS of lube!
Risks of Fisting
Firstly, fisting isn’t for everyone and never feel as though you have to go through with it if anything is feeling uncomfortable or just not for you. You can always say “no,” and there shouldn’t ever be any shame or embarrassment not to want to do it or go through with it!
If you do want to try fisting, here are some risks if you don’t take the proper precautions:
- If you are doing anal fisting, any bits of faeces that are left can cause tearing or extreme discomfort, so we suggest douching a few hours beforehand.
- If you choose not to wear gloves, make sure to clean your hands thoroughly after fisting, as genital bacteria can fester and collect under your fingernails if not cleaned properly, which can lead to passing on any STI’s to others.
- When fisting, there is a considerable risk of causing large tears and bleeding if you don’t GO SLOW! So be sure to insert and take out your fist gently.
If you are the fisting receiver, here are some things to be aware of and to stop if you experience any of the following:
- Sharp pains,
- Tearing or popping sensations,
- Bleeding excessively,
- Feeling dizzy,
- Intense stomach pains during or after fisting.
If you experience any of the above, please make sure to go to your local doctors right away and get yourself checked out!
But other than that, make sure you HAVE FUN. Fisting can be a gratifying experience, so yes, there are risks, but as long as you are safe and have plenty of communication and lube, you can have the time of your life!
If you liked this guide, make sure you also check out my ultimate beginners guide to fisting, which also includes recommended stretching dildos for those of you really up for a challenge!
